Nurturing Emotionally Healthy Relationships

 

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Nurturing Emotionally Healthy Relationships

Recently, a sermon series at Maitland Presbyterian Church in Maitland Florida, highlighted the topic of emotionally healthy relationships.  The series highlights aspects of maintaining emotionally healthy relationships.  This is not a summary of that series but rather some of my thoughts on this topic. I recommend the series and will include the link below.

An emotionally healthy relationship is one that is defined by mutual respect, trust, a healthy interdependence (not enmeshed or overly dependent) a sense of boundaries, honest communication, emotional understanding, empathy, and compassion.  How do we go about nurturing and sustaining these relationships?  The following are a few suggestions. 

First, it is important to be cautious around assumptions about the other person's motives when discussing an action or behavior pattern having a negative impact on that relationship.  Too often we are quick to make assumptions in relationships with negative implications.  For example, imagine that there is someone who has been perpetually late in the past.  The person arrives to a scheduled meeting late as they often do.  We respond by saying, "you are always late, that is your pattern, it is selfish and inconsiderate of you."  Now, also imagine that unknown to us, this person has actually been dramatically improving, and now has begun to arrive early to appointments and is improving.  In this case however, even though ample time was allotted, an unforeseen traffic blockage prevented them from arriving.  

My assumption turned out to be incorrect.  Furthermore, I was prevented from seeing or discovering the truth because I was not willing to revisit my basic assumptions about this person.  This demonstrates two other important elements.  There is a difference between facts and the interpretation of those facts.  One fact is that this person has a bad habit of being late in the past, it was also a fact that the person couldn't have done anything to be early in this case.  Although I had some of the facts correct, I had the wrong interpretation, and came to the wrong conclusion.  Second, the way I responded automatically puts the person on the defensive, and doesn't give them a chance to even explain.  It is a recipe for an argument that will escalate.  

How to avoid the mistake of making assumptions. 

One way to avoid the mistake cited above is to use "I" statements.  Use an "I" statement to communicate clearly, reduce defensiveness, and prevent incorrect assumptions.  So, instead of operating on a false assumption, it is better to say how that person's actions make you feel.  "You are always late, you are very inconsiderate"  Try saying this instead: "when you show up late, I feel worried about you."  Not only is this a better way to communicate, it lets the friend know the behavior and how it is impacting them.  It also avoids making a false assumption.  Often, when we are late to an appointment, we of course know whether we are at fault or not, but we don't extend the same courtesy to others. Using "I" statements can help begin the conversation.  

In a healthy relationship people cannot use manipulation or coercion to force others to do what we want them to do.  At times, people will use power when they want to force someone to comply with their wishes regardless of how the other person feels or thinks.  A person may not even have come to a decision on their own.  Why do we do this in relationships?  Sometimes it may be a deep fear or anxiety working in us, or perhaps it may be a desire to "win" over the other person, we may even have what we think is best in mind for the other person.  Guilt, blackmail, coercion, constant nagging, threats, and anger, can all be forms of coercion.  A healthy relationship is built on mutual trust and respect, and while anger is a normal human emotion, using that anger or turning that anger against someone to get them to do something we want them to do undermines any kind of mutuality.  It is tempting to use anger or nagging to make the person whose tardiness is impacting us negatively to change.  Although the goal may be admirable, this way of handling the situation isn't.  

Another rule to keep in mind is simple, people should always speak for themselves.  Even at a young age, we should allow children to begin speaking for themselves.  Sometimes an adult might speak for a child assuming what a child thinks or wants.  Supposing there are apples and oranges available and the adult may say, "here, you like apples don't you" while handing the child an apple. The child may be confused as she or he does not recall thinking this way, they would prefer to eat the orange.  Sometimes we speak on behalf of others, at a public meeting saying, "we believe that the government has lost the trust of the people."  

Using an "I" statement would be appropriate here, it is better to say, "I believe the government has lost my trust." We should not volunteer for others, make commitment for others, or attempt to influence, bully or suppress the opinions of others.  If we want to have a healthy relationship with others, we have to have mutual respect, and thinking we can tell others how they feel is not mutually respectful. "I" statements also follow the rule of letting people speak for themselves.  

Last, it is important to remember that we while we are individuals, we are also part of a community, and therefore, in relationships that depend on one another.  In many cases, we have to make collective decisions.  Having healthy relationships is even more crucial.  We can make better decisions often as a group when we collectively listen to each other.  Making "I" statements does not mean that we ignore the advice and opinions of others.  In fact, it makes their opinions even more important.   Even when we have to make decisions that are our own personal decisions it is important to take the advice and consent of others.  Ultimately, we are responsible for those decision that are under our control.  We cannot make decisions for others, nor can we ask others to make decisions that are our responsibility.  We engage advice and wisdom to make the best possible decision whether in a group or as an individual. 

Conclusion

Creating emotionally healthy relationships is the only way to ensure a long term sustainable relationship.  Using "I" statements, allowing others to speak for themselves, checking our assumptions or exceptions of others, wisely consulting others while taking personal responsibility for our decisions, all are foundational to mutual respect. In the book of Philippians we read "Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves." When we want to speak the truth to others, we can do that in a spirit of humility that values the other individual and gives them the respect to hear us and make their own decisions.  

To learn more about healthy emotional relationships check out the special sermon series below: 

Maitland Presbyterian Church Youtube Page

Sabbath as Resistance - Walter Brueggemann

Self Care for Clergy

The Emotionally Healthy Series (Leader, Spirituality, Church)

Racial Discrimination in Orlando as told by Nina Wilson Jones

 

Racial segregation and discrimination in Orlando?
That was a long time ago…or was it?

by Nina Wilson Jones, Member, CFP Anti-Racism Committee and Washington Shores Presbyterian

On May 25, 2020, in plain view of the world via a Facebook post about 10 minutes long, a man was tortured to death by police, and no one could look away. Not least of all Black America, nor our co-workers, associates, and acquaintances among BIPOC. Our centuries old shame and unbelieved truth of domestic terror became front page news for the world to see - a Black man was lynched that day. And regularly dismissed claims of injustice, disadvantage, and unfairness – even life or death threats – were finally believed. But we’re lucky here; we live in Orlando, home of the “Happiest Place on Earth.” Nothing like that awful strife happening in the world ever happens here. And if it did, it was a long time ago, right?
 
The attached image of the precocious little girl in the Easter dress and stockings is a comfortable reminder that in the recent past, especially in Orlando, things are different. The fact that she grew up here is proof. That photo isn’t that old; she’s had a nice, comfortable family life. She’s dressed for Easter and even went to a local Presbyterian church. Orlando isn’t like what we’ve seen on the news recently. And even if it ever was, that was a long time ago, right?
 
Would it surprise you to know that the little girl in the picture isn’t 60 years old? How about that she got that Easter dress from Ivey’s department store in downtown Orlando (a local predecessor to today’s Dillard’s), where her Mother told her not to look any white adults in the eye, touch anything in the store and never leave her Mother’s side. She had to wear one of her Polly Flinder dresses to go to this fancy store, where the elevators were operated by nice Black people in uniforms who pushed the buttons for you once you told them which floor you wanted to visit to shop in the store.
 
They had to go to the back of the Children’s department, where a different Black lady measured her and selected dresses in her size for her mother, who couldn’t browse freely in the store. They were not allowed to try the dress on in one of the fitting rooms that the white Mothers and daughters were using. And as her mother paid for her dress, she was reminded that it couldn’t be returned if it didn’t fit well. Her Mother sewed so she was grateful that her little girl would look extra nice for Easter Sunday and an upcoming photo appointment. And as they left the store, she overheard white sales representatives say how pretty she was for a little Black girl. There are such nice people in Orlando, right?
 
How about the nice home that little girl enjoyed? Sure, it was a stable, two-parent household in a neighborhood safe enough that neighbors walked into each other’s unlocked homes to borrow a cup of sugar for a cake they were baking for dinner, despite there was a public housing project right across the street. The little girl had a hand-me-down bicycle from her older sister and lots of dolls and toys to play with her friends. She walked to Sunday School most weeks because the Presbyterian church was at the other end of the street from her home. She didn’t know anything about redlined, racially segregated neighborhoods, with racially segregated public schools that were deemed inferior to the other public schools in town. Her parents were educators in those same neighborhood schools and her parents knew all her principals and teachers. She and her sister were definitely going to college because their parents were first generation college graduates. It was going to be a continuation of a proud legacy that her parents began at Historically Black Colleges and Universities. Their neighbors were business owners, physicians, attorneys, policemen, ministers, and other teachers. They all lived in one community because they wanted to; she didn’t know that they were legally required to live west of Division Street in Orlando. Or that her father had to be nice to the President of the small bank in her neighborhood because that was the only bank he could get a mortgage for their home or a loan for a car. Her father kept the 1930 Model A Ford he got from his father because it was a classic car. It wasn’t because he couldn’t get a second car loan, even on two teachers’ salaries.
 
She had no idea that she was already a baby in her parent’s arms, well into their mid-thirties, before they could vote in this country. Her parents were the exact same age as Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. and grew up knowing that despite being hard-working, law-abiding citizens of Orlando, they were deemed second-class by federal, state, and local law. They entered public buildings through back entrances, if at all. They did not go anywhere further than the high school or church after dark, not just because there wasn’t anything else to do in Orlando; they couldn’t go anywhere else safely in Orlando after dark. And when her big sister wanted to see if the water in the public drinking fountain downtown that had a “White Only” sign over it tasted different than the one that had a “Black” sign, she didn’t know why her sister got scolded for even mentioning it. No Orlando policeman would ever arrest or shoot a teenage girl, not even a Black one! The stories on the news back then about growling police dogs, open fire hoses on kids, church bombings and why her grandparents didn’t allow them to cross certain fields in the Seminole County country where they lived didn’t seem to be so scary because none of that happened here, right? Dr. King wanted non-violence; but why did they shoot him? He always knelt and prayed wherever he went, even to the PC US General Assembly. His wife and daughter looked so sad in the funeral pictures; they sat in church just like she and her Mother did on Sundays in Orlando, with her head in her Mother’s lap, rubbing her head softly.
 
How about when she won all those academic college scholarships, yet chose to go to the family’s alma mater, and her white high school counselor told her that she was wasting her education now that there was integration? The counselor was just looking out for her, right? And even after she completed college with high academic honors, rose through the ranks of one of the top three banks in the country, and came home from Texas to lead a business development team at a national conference for affluent minority professionals, she shouldn’t feel slighted when the regional executive at the Orlando downtown bank refused to meet with her, despite corporate protocols. It was just a scheduling mix-up with his secretary, right? It had nothing to do with the call to headquarters she had to make that they in turn, informed him that his calendar was in fact clear, to meet with the national business development executive who was in town to bring banking business to his Orlando office. He just couldn’t seem to remember how to make the small talk courtesies of welcoming home a fellow banker, a native daughter, reminiscing about intercity rivalries with her high school, that he could see from his corner office.
 
How about her neighborhood Presbyterian church? Wasn’t it full of family friends and traditions like Women’s circle meetings, church picnics, choir practices, Vacation Bible School, Easter egg hunts, Youth lock-ins and summer camp away from home? She attended Communicants classes at age twelve and they learned Robert’s Rules of Order so they could follow the congregational meetings with their parents. That was certainly a safe haven from the rest of Orlando beyond Division Street, right? Did it really matter that her church was established because the First Presbyterian Church downtown didn’t want Black members in the 1950’s? Despite what it says in the Bible about everyone being equal in God’s eyes (Revelations 7:9), those good Presbyterians couldn’t contradict the segregation laws in the South (even if the Orlando Mayor was a Ruling Elder of the church). That was too risky for any church leaders; not worth the risk for even for the Black community leaders in her congregation who were certified trade professionals, multi-degreed legitimate heirs of Dr. W.E.B. Du Bois’ Talented Tenth, members of the Divine Nine sororities and fraternities, and Jack and Jill of America, Inc. A separate but equal church for them was better, fair, and just, right?
 

Except that all this fondness for nostalgia right now is willfully blind to the harsh reality that the good old days weren’t always good for everyone. And maybe not even all that good. Don’t be deceived that because people comply with ‘the way things have always been’ doesn’t mean that suffering isn’t occurring, injustice isn’t prevalent and that you as a Christian, don’t need to personally get involved with changing things right here in Central Florida.

Nina Jones is a member of Washington Shores Presbyterian Church and a member of the Central Florida Presbytery Anti-Racism Committee.  This article was published in the Central Florida Presbytery Website in February of 2022 and is reprinted on this blog by permission

Central Florida Presbytery Anti-Racism Committee

Bartolomé de las Casas: An Early Voice for Justice

By Rev. Omar Gonzalez, Member of the Presbytery's Anti-Racism Committee (ARC) Central Florida Presbytery

When we see injustices in society, we are faced with a choice.  Often this choice comes with a cost.  A similar choice faced Bartolomé de las Casas, a young landowner living in the so called ‘new world’, born in the fifteenth century in Spain.  He was an eye witness to a turning point in history.  His father and two uncles accompanied Christopher Columbus on his second voyage in 1493.  He also witnessed the return of Christopher Columbus in April 1493 parading through the streets of Seville with great pageantry accompanied by native Tainos.  He eventually departed for the Santo Domingo with his father looking forward to a life of adventure and fortune. 

 
His life would forever be change when he arrived.  Bartolomé would become an eyewitness to atrocities and injustices committed against the indigenous people and would become an outspoken advocate for indigenous rights.  This was a gradual conversion that did not happen overnight.  The governor of Hispaniola gave Bartolomé an encomienda, a royal colonial right to forced labor from the Indigenous inhabitants.  He farmed and lived a prosperous life.  He was also an ordained priest, and continued celebrating mass.  Yet he began to be influenced by the preaching of Dominican friars who pointed out the unethical gains made by forced slavery.
 
Finally, when reading the text of Sirach 34:21–22, 25-26 for a sermon he was going to preach on Pentecost Sunday, he experienced a conversion. The text reads, ‘The bread of the needy is the life of the poor; who deprives them of it is a man of blood. To take away a neighbor's living is to murder him; to deprive a laborer of his wages is to shed blood'. 1  This was the start of his advocacy, lobby, and preaching to bring to light the injustices of the encomienda system and for new laws that would protect the rights of the native indigenous people.  He went on to preach the sermon on August 15, 1514, where he told his audience he was giving up his encomienda.  He returned to Spain where he began his work on behalf of the indigenous people.
 
Las Casas would go on to have many highs and lows in his efforts to bring to the attention of people the injustices that were being committed.  His published works include the Brief Account of the Destruction of the Indies  and In Defense of the Indians.  Part of his challenge was to convince colonists, governors, and administrators of the need to treat the indigenous people with dignity. He also understood the need to end the forced conversion to Christianity of the native peoples.
 
Las Casas also pointed out the root of the problem, he was critical of Christopher Columbus' policies that began the use of slave labor and the encomienda system in order to make the journeys to these territories profitable.  He wrote, “The Indians were to serve the Spaniards, using every man, woman, child for their maintenance and for other personal services.  From that originated the plague of repartimiento and encomienda ––  assigning and controlling Indians –– a plague which has devastated, consumed the Indians entirely.  Slaves were the primary sources of income for the Admiral.  With that income, he intended to repay the money the Kings were spending in support of Spaniards on the Island. Then provide profit and income to the Kings.” 2
 
Las Casas was vilified by many.  He was considered a traitor to his country.  He was accused of exaggerating the conditions of the native people, and he continued to face resistance for most of his life.  Yet his words are as powerful today as they were when he first penned them.  He forcefully argued that it was not the natives that were in need of conversion but rather the Spaniards. He wrote of the need to repent of “… that recent blindness of understanding which for the last seventy years has proceeded to shock and scandalize and rob and kill those people overseas.”3  What injustices today do we as Christians continue to perpetuate?  In what ways do we stay silent and continue to place gold above God?  These are questions las Casas words still prompt us to ask. 
 
Christ did not come into the world to die for gold-  Bartolomé de las Casas
 
Sources:
 
1.  Sirach quote from United States Conference Catholic Bishops https://bible.usccb.org/bible/sirach/34
 
2.         Bartolomé de las Casas, Indian Freedom: The Cause of Bartolomé de Las Casas 1484-1566 A Reader. Trans. Francis Patrick Sullivan. (Kansas City: Sheed & Ward, 1955) 60.
 
3.         Ibid. 8-9

New Bills in Florida Send a Chilling Message.

There is a disturbing trend in Florida's legislation that is aimed at censoring speech, legalizing discrimination, and limiting educational freedom of minorities in the state. The most recent example of this is the so called 'Parental Rights in Education' bill or what is also being called the 'Don't Say Gay' bill HB1557. This bill has the potential of effectively blocking classroom conversation about gender identity and sexuality at a time when these conversations are more important than ever. It can also have a chilling effect on teachers as the bill would allow parents to sue the school if they believe that a conversation or discussion was held that was not age appropriate. 

Supporters of the bill claim that this is about parent's rights over what is taught to their students, a representative in favor of this bill argued that there is already efforts to inject classroom discussions about sexuality in lower grades and that this bill would prevent sex education type discussions when not appropriate. Yet this is just a smoke screen for a badly worded vague bill that prohibits discussion about sexual and gender identity in the 'primary school level' a term that is legally undefined in Florida law. For many LGBTQ+ kids, schools are an important source of information, and eliminating mention of these topics deprive students from learning from their peers.  (For more discussion see “Gay is not a Permanent Thing: Legislature sends Controversial Bill to Governor" Florida Politics 2022). 

Another example is a House Bill (HB7) that goes after constitutionally protected speech in both the classroom and the workplace. It will seek to ban dialogue about systemic racism, gender and race discrimination. It would allow Florida's employment discrimination statutes to give employees the ability to file discrimination claims against an employer engaging in training or discussion about black history, gender, race discrimination or any other training that would make them 'feel guilt' based on the past actions of members of the same race.  

The bill would prohibit subjecting any individual to training or instruction that would cause an individual to "feel discomfort, guilt, anguish or any other form of psychological distress because of actions committed in the past by other members of the same race, color, sex or national origin." This is stunning because history does and should make people feel guilt, discomfort, anguish, and remorse. How will this law impact the teaching of the holocaust, the Native American genocide, African American slavery and oppression, among others?

In Florida, the governor is attempting to turn the argument about racism on its head, arguing that anti-racism is instead racism.  It attempts to sugarcoat and re-write history in order to restrict any discussions that offend members of other races.  It also assumes that people are not morally responsible for the mistakes of past generations.  However, Number 14:18 clearly indicate that God 'by no means clearing the guilty, visiting the iniquities of the parent's upon the children to the third and fourth generation.' It is important to teach and understand the past even though it is unpleasant, disturbing and traumatic.  

Our United States history has been one of enslavement, oppression, sharecropping, lynching, and discrimination against African-American's and many other minority groups.  To forget our history of violence and discrimination is to dishonor the memory of victims, it is to forget how hate and oppression became normalized and codified in law and permitted for such a long time, and how people became dehumanized which allowed others to enslave and oppress.   

It is also significant that while some voices in our society continue to insist that the United States doesn't have a problem with systematic racism and discrimination against LGBTQ+ community, examples of legalized and codified racism like these bills only underscore the very problem it denies. These bills are designed to hurt minority populations in Florida including people of color, women, and the LGBTQ+ community.  There is no question that when society and especially the church remains silent and when discrimination is legalized, more drastic forms of exclusion, violence, and discrimination will follow.  

Sermon by Rev. Tiffany Chaney ELCA Churchwide Assembly 2019

The Evangelical Lutheran Church in America (ELCA) is one of the largest Christian denominations in the United States, with nearly 3.5 million members in more than 9,000 worshiping communities in the United States and in the Caribbean region. Known as the church of "God's work. Our hands," the ELCA emphasizes the saving grace of God through faith in Jesus Christ, unity among Christians and service in the world. The ELCA's roots are in the writings of the German church reformer Martin Luther.

In this 2019 sermon, the Rev. Tiffany Chaney brings a challenging message on Jesus anointing at the house of the Simon the Leper.

Action Alert! Ukrainian Assistance

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From the Office of Public Witness of PC(USA):  With the escalation of conflict in Ukraine, we are deeply concerned over the potential humanitarian impact of this conflict on both the people of Ukraine and those refugees and asylum seekers who have sought safety there. UNHCR estimates that around 660,000 refugees have now fled Ukraine to neighboring countries, such as Poland, Hungary, Moldova, Slovakia, and Romania, in the past six days. UNHCR has indicated that at this rate, the situation looks set to become Europe’s largest refugee crisis this century. 

Call on Congress to Stand With Vulnerable Ukrainians and Uphold Protections for the Displaced

Now is a critical time to urgently provide humanitarian support to people in Ukraine and refugees in neighboring countries. The escalation of conflict has triggered an immediate and steep rise in humanitarian needs as essential supplies and services are disrupted and civilians flee the fighting. The UN estimates that 12 million people inside Ukraine will need relief and protection, while more than 4 million Ukrainian refugees may need protection and assistance in neighboring countries in the coming months.

We mourn the suffering that mass displacement and humanitarian crisis have caused and acknowledge the pain of Ukrainians and Ukrainian Americans here in the U.S. who fear for their loved ones overseas. Our prayers are with our Ukrainian siblings, their loved ones, and all who aid in their protection. Now is a critical time to take action. Join us in urging Congress to mobilize resources for humanitarian and displacement assistance and to hold the Biden administration accountable to respond to the protection needs of displaced and at-risk populations.

Call on Congress to Stand With Vulnerable Ukrainians and Uphold Protections for the Displaced

This action alert is from the Presbyterian Church (USA) Office of Public Witness Compassion, Peace and Justice Ministries. 

Presbyterian Disaster Assistance Ukraine

PC(USA) Office of Public Witness

Isaiah 58:6-8

Is not this the fast that I choose: to loose the bonds of injustice to undo the thongs of the yoke,to let the oppressed go free, and to break every yoke? Is it not to share your bread with the hungry, and bring the homeless poor into your house; when you see the naked, to cover them and not to hide yourself from your own kin? Then your light shall break forth like the dawn, and your healing shall spring up quickly; your vindicator shall go before you, the glory of the Lord shall be your rear guard.

Action Alert! Voting Rights Critical in USA

From the Office of Public Witness PC(USA)- On Wednesday, January 6, 2021, we witnessed an attack on our democracy. A mob of insurrectionists stormed the United States Capitol building with the intent to overturn the 2020 Presidential election. Using violence and intimidation, the insurrectionists attempted to stop the certification of Joe Biden as the 46th President of the United States. Though their attempt at a coup did not prevail, the attack on our democracy continued. 

The 2020 general election had the highest voter turnout in over a century. However, in the months following the January 6th attack, states passed the highest number of voter suppression laws in the last ten years. Nineteen state legislatures passed 33 laws restricting the right to vote. These laws include harsher voter ID requirements, more restrictions on vote-by-mail and early voting, and more. Additionally, "440 bills with provisions that restrict voting access were introduced in 49 states in the 2021 legislative sessions." In December 2021, at least 13 bills in four states were pre-filled for 2022 that would make it harder for people to vote. It is time for Congress to act and pass legislation to strengthen our democracy and protect the right to vote! 

Tell your Senator to Pass the John Lewis Voting Rights Advancement Act and the Freedom to Vote Act!

The Freedom to Vote Act (S.2747) is a broad package that incorporates the main pillars of the For the People Act. It includes protecting the right to vote, ending partisan gerrymandering, and redistricting. It also contains campaign finance reforms and protections against emerging tactics to undermine election results after ballots are cast. 

The John Lewis Voting Rights Advancement Act (S.4) would protect voters by holding states and jurisdictions accountable for administering elections fairly. S. 4 would prevent voting rules that discriminate against voters based on race or membership in language minority groups. It would also restore voters' right to contest discriminatory laws. Both bills have passed the House of Representatives. Now it is time for the Senate to act!

In 2008, the 218th Presbyterian Church (U.S.A.) General Assembly voted to approve Lift Every Voice. This policy statement affirmed that "to deny anyone a fair vote is a sin." Therefore, restricting access to voting is a sin and fundamentally goes against our Reformed Christian beliefs. As people of faith, we have a responsibility to ensure that everyone can participate in our political system for the good of the community. It is essential to ensure that everyone has the ability to make their voices heard in our democracy. 

2021 was a devastating year for our democracy. It is more critical than ever that we take action to reclaim the values and promises of our electoral process.  

Tell Your Senator to vote YES for the John Lewis Voting Rights Advancement Act and the Freedom to Vote Act!

Isaiah 58:6-8

Is not this the fast that I choose: to loose the bonds of injustice,to undo the thongs of the yoke,to let the oppressed go free, and to break every yoke?  Is it not to share your bread with the hungry, and bring the homeless poor into your house; when you see the naked, to cover them and not to hide yourself from your own kin? Then your light shall break forth like the dawn, and your healing shall spring up quickly; your vindicator shall go before you, the glory of the Lord shall be your rear guard.

On A Personal Note:  I forward this statement from the Office of Public Witness as a way to assist Christians in being politically active and living out our faith in our society.  Christians often disagree on politics, and I have stated in the past that no political party defines the Kingdom of God.  However, the attack on Jan 6 to overturn a free and fair election was the first time in our history that we saw an attack by citizens on our constitutional rule of law governing elections on this scale, on the grounds of the capitol building while an election was being certified.  The Christian symbols on display including "Jesus Saves" banners and the Christian flag were clearly showing that misguided Christians were involved in the pro-trump anti-democratic attack on our constitution and society. This was an attack that was incited by then President Trump (now ex-president) and has been condemned by many religious leaders. I also condemn this riot as a coup attempt that threatened the integrity of our democracy, our national security, the lives of law enforcement and the safety of legislators. This threat is far from over and Christian leaders should be outspoken in calling those Christians involved in these efforts to repentance. Omar R Gonzalez